There are 2,274 posts on this blog. Of those, 25% have the “I choose” tag. Clearly, I’ve been big on choice for a long time. And, the more I learn, the more I understand just how powerful choice is.

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Most of the life you have now is because of your choice. I’m not saying your life is the result of your choices, I’m saying for the most part you have the life you have because you have chosen to have it. Even as I type those words, I can hear the arguments!

  • I didn’t choose to be unemployed.
  • I didn’t choose to be in an accident that left me disabled.
  • I didn’t choose to have a wife who hates sex.
  • I didn’t choose to be infertile.

We all deal with things we would never choose. We can become victims of those things, or we can choose to react differently. We choose to let our difficulties make us something, or we choose to become something because of our difficulties. We have no control of what life throws at us, but we have a great deal of control over how we react.

It has not always been this way. For much of history most people had very narrow choices. Freedom was a privilege of the few, and chances to better one’s self were exceptionally rare. Yes, our modern society has all manner of problems and dangers, but these are a shadow of what our ancestors dealt with. We have incredible opportunities. Most of today’s poor are better off than most of humanity was a couple of centuries ago. If you have the money to get on the Internet, you’re richer and better off than 99% of those who lived up to and through the middle ages.

Yes, you have problems, and challenges. Yes, you have limitations. You also have opportunities your great-grand father could never have imagined. You get to choose which of those you allow to shape your future.

Choose wisely!

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Bring Sex Out of the Church Closet!

April 26, 2015

It turns out God knows all about sex. In fact, He actually invented sex. I know, I know, you suspected humans though it up and had kept it hidden from God. Who would have thought God actually designed the whole thing and gave it to us to enjoy. Why didn’t I ever learn this in Sunday […]

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Arousal: It’s All In Your Mind

April 25, 2015

We tend to think of sexual arousal as a body thing. This is especially true for men, as we clearly feel the results of arousal swelling our favourite body part. In truth, erections and orgasms are the physical end result of processes which are primarily mental. Likewise for her pleasure; what happens between her ears […]

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Friday Flashback: Menstrual Massage

April 24, 2015

When she’s on her period, something is probably hurting. The lower back is common place for pain. Breast discomfort is also common. Then there’s the cramping. Learn where her “period pain” is, and how you can rub or massage her to reduce the pain. You’ll have to listen to her carefully and back off at […]

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Make A Change. Any Change…

April 23, 2015

If your marriage is nearly perfect, skip this. Otherwise… Do something different. What you do differently is not as important as doing something differently. If you don’t like the way things are, make a change. If things get better, you’re on the right track. If your change makes things worse, you know more than you knew before, […]

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Is TV Stealing Your Life (and Marriage)?

April 22, 2015

Recently I asked the women on The XY Code to give me “Why does my husband ______” questions. One such question was Why Does My Husband Watch So Much TV?  According to Neilsen, women watch slightly more TV than men – 4 hours 11 minutes a day to 3 hours 34 minutes for men. Based on what I’ve observed […]

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Your Own Personal Best

April 21, 2015

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” ~ Ernest Hemingway What a great quote! It perfectly sums up what I was saying in my recent series on the lie of average, but goes even further.  Most people judge themselves based on those around […]

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She’s Not Thinking What You Think She’s Thinking

April 20, 2015

Recently I had several e-mails from women whose concerns boiled down to, “My husband is doing or saying XYZ and I am upset he thinks ABC.” Each wife assigned meaning and motive to their husband’s actions, and was more upset by what they imagined he was thinking than what he actually said or did. Thing is, I doubted […]

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