I know the whole men are messy stereotype is far from universally true, but “I wish he would pick up after himself” is a very, very common complaint from women.

True Love Cleans Up

I’m not a neat person. My wife is. She hasn’t been a harpy about it, but it has been an issue many times. I realise now my messiness caused her a good deal of frustration over the years, and for a time made her doubt my love. And I don’t blame her. I have come to understand that a certain level of order is necessary for her to feel right, and that is how God made her.

I have become a bit less messy for myself, but I go beyond that for my wife. I love her, how could I not do this for her?

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