It’s time for some Christians to start the annual war against the way the world has perverted Christmas.

I’ve done a good deal of reading on this: the history of Christmas, why Dec 25th may not be so wrong, and all the ways the world and the church have twisted the whole thing. Frankly I’ve wasted far too many hours on this stuff.

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As I see it, the problem is not what’s been added. The problem is what’s been removed: Jesus loved us enough to come to earth as a baby, His death on a cross already planned. Granted some of what’s been added was added to replace or distract from the fact of Jesus, but I don’t see how making a lot of noise about the other stuff does anything to put the focus back on Jesus. How do protests, angry opinion pieces by journalists, boycotts, or hiding away like Scrouge show anyone the love of God?

My choice is to be in the world’s Christmas but not of it. I see it as an opportunity to show the kind of love only those who follow Him can show. I can’t do that if I’m angry, argumentative, defensive, or detached. I encourage you to do what you think is right, but please give what I’ve said here a bit of thought. 

Giving Tuesday: The last few years Lori and I have kicked off our year-end giving on “Giving Tuesday” which is the Tuesday after Thanksgiving. Last year we raised $11,000 (yes, exactly, very OCD-pleasing). This year we’re setting a goal of $10,000. If you think what we do is useful, please pray about helping us out a little. Link on Tuesday. 

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Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart posted Your Dying Spouse 88 – Tabula Rasa ◄ Read this, apply it, and have a WAY better marriage. Or stay with pride and the rewards it brings.

Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart

Your Dying Spouse 87 – The Worst Version of Myself ◄ We can do better.

Dave Willis

The 7-Day Marriage Challenge ◄ Better marriage in a week? Yes, if you do half of these half way well.

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

The Fastest Way to a Happy Marriage ◄ The one-word path to a better marriage.

The Generous Wife

On the Level ◄ My wife beat me to this RV/marriage analogy.
Throwback Thursday – Calm ◄ Calm is a great gift.

Hot, Holy and Humorous

Truly Beautiful with Lori Byerly ◄ My beautiful wife shares a few words on real beauty.

Intimacy in Marriage

5 Lies Christians Spread about Sex (The Last One is the Worst) ◄ Which of these lies is hurting your sex life?
Did You Have Sex With Your Spouse Before You Married? ◄ It wasn’t okay, but it does not doom your sex life.

Journey to Surrender

The Once-a-week Wall ◄ More sex means more satisfied with sex.

Leading Men Only

Prayer Works So Work Prayer ◄ Even before “All else has failed”.


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Spend Less, Give More

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Thank You. Yes, YOU!

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Today as those of us in the USofA give thanks, I want to thank all those who follow this blog. Thank you for reading, commenting, agreeing, and challenging me. Doing this blog for the last fourteen years has taught me more than any of you will ever get from what I write. Doing this has […]

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Gratitude: Road to A Better Marriage

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I’ve written a couple posts on divorce recently (Just Cut Off Your Leg & A Friend of Your Marriage), which sparked some good discussion both in the comments and my email. Ranting about how horrible divorce is, and how we have way too many Christians doing it, is all fine and dandy. But what about a […]

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