The toilet paper holder is up

March 4, 2009

in Acts of Service

Do you have a “honey do” list?  Do you hate it? Does it eat at your very soul?

Okay, I exaggerate – but some of you know the feeling.

Yesterday I put up a toilet paper holder and a hand towel ring in the bathroom used by my son and guests. I have been putting off this little job for a couple of months. Yes, it was ridiculously more work than it should have been. It should not have taken four tools and finding a replacement drywall anchor for the poorly made one that broke going in. 

Still, it was 15 minutes work, and it made a difference to my bride. I’d say she is worth it, but do my actions show back that up? Not nearly as often as they should.

4 comments
Eleutheros
Eleutheros

Hey Frank! Do you bless her often with words of gratitude for the things she does for you? This is exactly what our Father asks us to do for Him. And I've found that He asks us to do this not for His benefit, but for ours! Think about why that might be true. If you are not doing this, often, then you are likely not noticing her and the things she does for you. So, if this is true, then I think it likely that when she asks you to do the things that you, as a man, can do better than her, for her, it seems like she is asking to much from you, asking you to take to much of your time that you want to spend doing something else, especially if it's on your day off. Try observing her and the things she does for you. And no matter how small it may seem begin to thank her for it. Then when the time comes to do something for her, you have stored in your mind a list of her goodness, And that, I've found, helps provide a different perspective when you feel 'put out' by her requests. And that's one of the things I mean when I say, "Be good!

The Generous Husband
The Generous Husband

Frank - To me "she's worth it" is a choice. I believe she is worth it - and repeating that helps my unbelief!

Frank
Frank

I HAVE TO BE HONEST HERE. WHEN MY WIFE GIVES ME THE HONEY DO LIST. I'M NOT ALWAYS RIGHT THERE TO DO IT WITH A SMILE. DON'T GET ME WRONG I'LL DO ANYTHING MY WIFE ASKS OF ME. I JUST HAVE A PROBLEM DOING IT WITHOUT SIGHING OR COMPLAINING ON SOME OCCASIONS. I JUST WONDER IF THAT IS WRONG OF ME. I SHOULD BE A LOVING & CARING SERVANT TO MY WIFE, BUT THAT IS NOT ALWAYS THE CASE. DOES ANYONE ELSE GO THROUGH THIS SAME THING. IF SO GOT ANY ADVICE TO HELP ME BE MORE POSITIVE WHEN IT COMES TO TAKING CARE OF WHATEVER MY WIFE NEEDS. THANKS BE BLESSED

Eleutheros
Eleutheros

LOL! Sounds like you know well 'the feeling'! There is a subtle shift in thought that I find works for me to bring out a better feeling when a 'simple' job goes complicated- I pause and take a deep breath and think of the smile on my precious ones face and the delight in her voice when I show her the finished work- As well as the heartfelt hug and the affectionate kiss that follows. As you say, she's worth it! ;) Be good!

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