We all find it difficult to see ourselves as others do. A spouse should serve as a mirror that helps us to see what others see, and especially to help us to see our blind spots.
Are you a good mirror for your bride, or are you showing her a distorted image? Are your desires, goals, priorities or fears bending you so that you are like the wavy mirrors in the fun-house? Do you have a vision of what you want her to be that you are painting on the reflections you provide? Give it some deep thought and prayer – if you don’t think you are, or have been, a good mirror, discuss it with your bride.
By the way, this works both ways. You need to know that your bride is a good mirror if you are going to act on what you see her reflecting. Same for anyone else – don’t trust what others reflect unless you are sure the mirror they provide is free of major distortions.