Who put that in my Bible?

March 15, 2009

in Shared walk

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1Pe 3:7 NKJV

If I were to narrow that verse down to the nitty-gritty, I’d say it says “Be understanding of your wife, and honour her, or God may ignore your prayers.”

OUCH!

The Greek word rendered as “hindered” is Ekkopto, and it literally means “cut off”. Most of the uses of this word in the New Testament indicate the pruning or cutting down of a plant. So, if we are not acting rightly towards our wife, the Lord “cuts off” our prayers.

What does “acting rightly” mean? Probably a lot more than we would like. In fact, I suspect God’s expected behaviour from husbands is well beyond what most of our brides hope for. God seems to have a soft place in His heart for women. They are His daughters, and He does not take kindly to them being treated as less precious than He made them.

Just something to think about and pray on!

 

8 comments
cjwilliams77
cjwilliams77

OUCH!!! We as men, especially men of God, must get a clear picture of Biblical manhood looks like. Then and only then can we begin to love our wives as Christ love the church. The perfect example of Biblical Manhood is found in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!! Let's keep pressing forward brother's. God Bless!! "Manhood and Christlikeness are synonymous" Edwin Louis Cole (author of Maximized Manhood)(a must read!!)

Eleutheros
Eleutheros

Aponemo Time- You sound like someone who's trying to get it right- and that is never something that is to late to do. If you would like and you need someone to talk to you can PM me through the Marriage Bed. My screen name there is the same as here. I've been through adultery and divorce and I have three children. Perhaps, then, you might find my experiences and the things I've learned along the way from them, to be of some encouragement. May the LORD lift up His face to see the good you are now doing and bless you.

Aponemo Time
Aponemo Time

Alas, if it only cost us greatly...but it doesn't. If we don't treat our bride properly, the cost is great to her as well, and to children, if present. Not treating our bride's with love and cherishing - in other words, being selfish in whatever ways that manifests itself - marriages crumble, and sometimes fail completely. I know...my wife left 16 months ago. She has been very hurt, our children our hurt, friendships and family relationships have been strained... If it was just me who had to suffer the consequences of my sins, I could learn (eventually) to live with that. But our children are suffering, and she is as well. That is something that I'm not sure I'll ever be able to live with. I have, in the past year, come to believe that while husbands and wives are responsible for their own actions, husbands are (and will be) held accountable for the condition of their family, more so than the wife. It's very much like the knights of old, who served at the pleasure of their king. We Christian husbands serve the risen King - and He has given us headship over our family. Want it or not we have it - and we serve in that role at His pleasure. If we don't do our job, He will remove us, or allow circumstances and events to remove us.

The Generous Husband
The Generous Husband

Aponemo Time - Great! God is certainly concerned with how we treat our bride, and when we fail to do it as He intends it costs us greatly.

Eleutheros
Eleutheros

2:13 “This is another thing you do: you cover the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping and with groaning, because He no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor from your hand. 2:14 “Yet you say, ‘For what reason?’ Because the LORD has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1Pe 3:7 NKJV Aponemo Time: That was a good reply! Well said!

Aponemo Time
Aponemo Time

1 Peter 3:7 - one of my favorite (if not absolute favorite) scriptures relating to marriage, and one that (I think) is often overlooked. Everbody knows Malachi 2:16 - "For I hate divorce," says the LORD, the God of Israel...", but have you read the preceding verses? There's an interesting connection (to me) between the passage in Malachi 2 and 1 Peter 3:7. 2:13 "This is another thing you do: you cover the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping and with groaning, because He no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor from your hand. 2:14 "Yet you say, 'For what reason?' Because the LORD has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. 2:15 "But no one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And what did that one do while he was seeking a godly offspring? Take heed then to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth. (Emphasis mine) Israel did't get it some 3,000 years or so ago (not sure when Malachi was written)...and we (Christian husbands) STILL don't get it. The word Peter used that was translated as honor (in most versions) has a very powerful meaning. It can mean the honor associated with a position or role a person has, or it can refer to the value of something. A wife should be honored for both - the position she holds, and the value she has. One final thing, then I'll go (for now). Notice that Peter, like Paul in Ephesians and his other letters, never gives a prerequisite for how we are to treat our wives. Peter doesn't tell us to honor our wives only if they're making us happy, and Paul doesn't tell us to love our wives only when they're being a submissive wife. We're to do those things regardless of what our wives are or are not doing. I just recently stumbled across this blog, and have been lurking for a few weeks, off-and-on. I look forward to seeing more good things here. And now I'll really go, lest I get up on my soapbox again - and you all don't want that :)

erikanderson
erikanderson

Gentlemen, on this very topic, a book that has helped me better understand this very concept is "The Power of a Praying Husband" by Stormie Omartian. You can get it at any bookstore or online. It's one of those "every Christian married man should have this one handy. My dad, my father-in-Law and I go through this. It is very cool. EA Milwaukee

pilgrim1
pilgrim1

I truly like the aspect of the 'preciousness' of our brides in God's eyes. As we pray and ask God to open our eyes and hearts to this significant truth He will widen the application so that we will view our children in a similar fashion. Subsequently, by the power of the indwelling Christ, our thoughts and attitudes shift from thinking only of our importance to God to the value He places on the souls and bodies of others in our family. This is a wonderful application of bringing every thought captive to the Lord Jesus Christ. Though it is not always easy, since we're in a spiritual battle living in this world of self centredness, the provisions of God have been so freely given for all things that pertain to life and Godliness (2Peter 1:1-8). The Apostle Peter was writing to living saints in very difficult circumstances and they had no justifiable excuses for not growing in their trust in the Lord and how it was to translate into their relationships with others. Are we not in globally trying circumstances? Is Christ living in the hearts of those who have accepted Him? The Apostle Paul, in Romans 8:11, firmly stated the following: But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you." Can God fix us? Yes He Can!!!

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