In my observations of couples, it often seems that they do not extend the benefit of the doubt to one another. If anything, it often seems that couples go the other way, assuming anything said was meant in the worst, meanest, ugliest way possible.
I suppose it’s tempting to think we know our spouse so well that we know what they intended. But even if you know your bride very well, you might miss it once in a while. Besides, giving the benefit of the doubt seems a wise and kind thing to do – even if you have good reason to not extend that benefit.
Make a choice to give her grace even when you don’t think she deserves it. Such a choice might improve an otherwise bad situation, and your bride might follow your lead and give you grace – even when you don’t deserve it!