1 + 1 = 1

May 19, 2009

in 1 + 1 = 1

Chalk board © chalk text effect | picturetopeople.orgNo, it’s not “new math”, it’s God’s marriage math.

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh” [Mt 19:5 NKJV]

While I certainly see a sexual component in this (in 1 Cor 6:15-16 Paul says that having sex with a prostitute makes a man “one body” with her) it is so much more. When we marry, God wants us to lose who we are. Both husband and wife should change, becoming something different than either was alone.

Does this mean you each give up half of who you are? I don’t think so – this is certainly a case of the whole being greater than the sum of parts. What’s more, the whole can be things that neither of the parts were and do things neither was able to do.

Can I explain it?  No, not even close. But I have experienced it in my marriage, and seen it in the marriages of others. In a good marriage, both individuals are better and more capable than they would ever be separate. If you are not seeing that in your marriage, I suggest focusing on your marriage and making it a top priority.

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2 comments
Eleutheros
Eleutheros

AS a fact, in the Hebrew of Genesis the word THE ('Ha', in Hebrew) is an important part of a word such that Genesis does not initially refer to Ish (the Man) as 'Adam'. That did not morph into his personal name till after the turning. And note that Ishsha (the Woman) did not get her personal name, Chava, (life spring) till Adam gave it to her, again, after the turning. Before that Ish, the Man and Isha, the Woman, did indeed exist as One entity and the Hebrew reflects this idea by always referring to them both and together, before the turning, as 'The Adam'. If a distinction had to be made between them, for the sake of clarity, Chava was first called, by Ish, 'HaIshsha' or 'The Woman', as a result of the wonderful pun Ish made when he first saw her. Therefore I do believe that The Adam had sex in the Garden, before the turning. This is supported by the fact that Elohim's declaration that they were to be One flesh, 'leave and cleave' came immediately after they were introduced to each other; for it is sex and sex alone that makes a male and a female into a compound unity, an echad. Therefore, it is a fact that marriage exists because sex exists. And that is because sex is far to powerful a thing for us humans to be trifling with. (Just look around you at the disaster we've made of ourselves, since the disruption of the world, because we trifle with sex.) And that is also why sex was designed into us, from the beginning, such that we are defined by it into what kind of human we are going to be, a Male or a Female. And that is because sex was created, again, from the beginning, to be a wonderful benefit -a little slice of heaven-on-earth, so to speak- for humans who were proven virtuous and would be, therefore, good. In other words, sex was designed to benefit humans who know the difference between good and evil, (which is the definition of a conscience, by the way) and choose, always, to do what is good and what is right. Exactly as our Father in the heavens does. And exactly as was His intention for us, from the beginning, so that we would be like Him in every way. Which is why I say, "Be good!" It is what you were created to be. And don't you know it makes your Father proud of you when you are?

prov9_18_19
prov9_18_19

There is also the mystery that while the two become 1, each 1 also becomes more than it was. The term synergy is way overused in today's society. But simply defined, it means that the whole is greater than the individual parts (from Wikipedia). This defines a good, healthy marriage in my mind.

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