Sometimes the best service you can offer is to do nothing at all.
She may have a need to do certain things herself, or to do it “her way”. Sometimes it’s not just about it being done her way, she wants to do it herself. It could be a sense of accomplishment, or doing certain things may calm hew down or cheer her up.
Ask your wife if there are things she want or needs to do herself. Also let her know if you have things you want or need to do yourself.