Comments on: Don’t just help, stand there – or go away http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2009/07/16/dont-just-help-stand-there/ Daily tips on being a better husband. Wed, 28 Jul 2010 18:23:57 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: djay http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2009/07/16/dont-just-help-stand-there/comment-page-1/#comment-278 djay Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:00:24 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=1253#comment-278 One further thought. What she does not mind sharing today, she may not want to share next month or year. We used to alternate weeks of cooking when we were 'before children', but after the children came along, she felt that SHE needed to be the primary cook and I took only Saturday or on request duties in the kitchen. Now that the kids are in college, it's often, 'fend for yourself'. She cooks for herself and I cook for myself, with some meals arranged by either of us. DJ One further thought. What she does not mind sharing today, she may not want to share next month or year.

We used to alternate weeks of cooking when we were ‘before children’, but after the children came along, she felt that SHE needed to be the primary cook and I took only Saturday or on request duties in the kitchen.

Now that the kids are in college, it’s often, ‘fend for yourself’. She cooks for herself and I cook for myself, with some meals arranged by either of us.

DJ

]]> By: skypilot39b http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2009/07/16/dont-just-help-stand-there/comment-page-1/#comment-277 skypilot39b Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:10:38 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=1253#comment-277 one of the hardest challenges I have with supporting my wife is knowing when she wants help and when she wants to accomplish for herself whatever it is that she's attempting. Constant communication and figuring out what when wrong when it did are a huge part of making it better! one of the hardest challenges I have with supporting my wife is knowing when she wants help and when she wants to accomplish for herself whatever it is that she’s attempting. Constant communication and figuring out what when wrong when it did are a huge part of making it better!

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