Some interesting research showed that when we use a tool our minds make the tool an extension of our bodies. For example, individuals who had used a mechanical grabbing device acted as if their arm was longer after using the tool. (See here for information)
What does this have to do with sex?
What if her body could become an extension of yours when you are having sex? What if you could feel where she was sexually? What if you could know at certain times that you could do one of several things, and knew each would have a very certain but different outcome? What if your ability to control when you climaxed suddenly became lost in her pleasure, so you could continue with ease, climaxing with or just after she her? What if you knew just how to arouse her almost any time – not because you learned some secret, no fail, trick, but because you learned to feel where she was and know what would arouse her at that moment? What if her pleasure, physical and otherwise, felt as good or better to you than your own orgasm?
I can’t prove it to you, but I’m convinced all of this, and much more, is possible. Not just possible, but how it should be. I’ve experienced some of the above, and talked with others who have experienced some of them. I realise what I’ve described sounds impossible, and it’s certainly beyond what science could explain – but that doesn’t mean it’s beyond what we can have.
My point in all this is God made sex bigger, deeper, and far more mysterious than we can possibly grasp. My personal opinion is sex has a spiritual component, which is why we can’t fully understand it. Regardless of the why, while science and thinking can help you a great deal in the marriage bed, some of the best sex to be had can’t be understood, taught, or explained; it can only be experienced.