When her body is an extension of yours

July 22, 2009

in Series, Sexuality

Some interesting research showed that when we use a tool our minds make the tool an extension of our bodies. For example, individuals who had used a mechanical grabbing device acted as if their arm was longer after using the tool. (See here for information)

What does this have to do with sex?

What if her body could become an extension of yours when you are having sex? What if you could feel where she was sexually? What if you could know at certain times that you could do one of several things, and knew each would have a very certain but different outcome? What if your ability to control when you climaxed suddenly became lost in her pleasure, so you could continue with ease, climaxing with or just after she her? What if you knew just how to arouse her almost any time – not because you learned some secret, no fail, trick, but because you learned to feel where she was and know what would arouse her at that moment? What if her pleasure, physical and otherwise, felt as good or better to you than your own orgasm?

I can’t prove it to you, but I’m convinced all of this, and much more, is possible. Not just possible, but how it should be. I’ve experienced some of the above, and talked with others who have experienced some of them. I realise what I’ve described sounds impossible, and it’s certainly beyond what science could explain – but that doesn’t mean it’s beyond what we can have.

My point in all this is God made sex bigger, deeper, and far more mysterious than we can possibly grasp. My personal opinion is sex has a spiritual component, which is why we can’t fully understand it. Regardless of the why, while science and thinking can help you a great deal in the marriage bed, some of the best sex to be had can’t be understood, taught, or explained; it can only be experienced.

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4 comments
Africord
Africord

It occurs to me that communication built on a commitment that is sacrificial, supportive, and focused to a depth that is incredible are key requirements for this level of "oneness".

parbar
parbar

The Bible says in Gen 2:24 "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be ONE flesh." Yes, we should be one flesh. I do not see my wife as an extention but her body is my body and my body is her body: ONE Flesh. 1Cor 7:4 "The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife." Eph 5:28 "...husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--" I have set myself not to desire pleasure from my wife when we are in bed by setting my desire for her pleasure leading up to her orgasm. Once I experience her pleasure, mine comes at the same time or right after her without me being anxious or wanting it because I put her pleasure above mine. Selfless not shelfish. One Flesh, One Body. Us, not her and me. My wife was hurt in previous relationships by those who were shelfish. Once we married and she got over it through the help of JESUS, she was able to climax/orgasm for the first time from me, a selfless gentleman who put her above himself. Thanks Paul, as you are right on with selfless not shelfish love/sex in a Christian marriage.

eppvolvo
eppvolvo

This is good. I'm there. I'm wondering how deep this sex thing goes.

beau1al
beau1al

This post is right on... I have found it to be true that as I concentrate more on the entirity of the experience instead of my own pleasure it becomes a spiritual thing. The problem is our society people are entirely focused on their own genital pleasure. However, agape love requires one dying to themselves and this extends to the sexual relationship. Thanks for this post.

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