Christians get both world’s and Church’s wrong sexual ideas

August 8, 2009

in Links to good stuff, Sexuality

Society and the Church both have wrong ideas about sex; ideas that don’t work and have nothing to do with what God intend for sex. Unfortunately, most Christians get both sets of bad sexual concepts, making sex even more difficult and messed up for us than it is for those in the world.

Many of the wrong ideas of Church and society seem to be opposites, which puts some on a  hunt for the truth somewhere between the two. But what if the truth, what God intended, isn’t between the two? What if God’s truth isn’t even on the same plane as the concepts of society and religious folks? What if the whole “pendulum” concept is wrong, and we can assure ourselves of never finding the truth if we buy into the pendulum?

Please realise that women get it far worse in this two sets of lies deal. She’s not the sexless woman expected by one side nor the free-spirited “slut” championed by the other, she can’t feels uncomfortable no matter what she does. Give your wife a lot of grace and love as she works to undo the lies and seeks His truth.

Some great books for the ladies:

25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy – by Juli Dr. Slattery
Clear no punches pulled answers to hard questions about love, sex, and intimacy. “What if I don’t like sex? : Is ______ok in the bedroom? : How do I get past my shame? : What if I want sex more than my husband does?”
Also on Kindle 

For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men – By Shaunti Feldham
This is a wonderful resource for helping wives understand their husbands.
Also on Kindle 

Intimate Issues – By Linda Dillow & Lorraine Pintus
Intimate Issues is a remarkable book for women about married sexuality. Comes with a twelve-week Bible study.
Also on Kindle 

The Passion Principles: Celebrating Sexual Freedom in Marriage – by Shannon Ethridge
This book’s goal is to help couples enjoy sex free of inhibition, awkwardness, fear, resentment, guilt, and shame. Covers all apsects of sexuality: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. 
Also on Kindle 

The Sexually Confident Wife – By Shannon Ethridge
The Sexually Confident Wife is an insightful book about married sexuality. I (Lori) was deeply impressed with Shannon’s personal transparency and ability to discuss frankly, yet graciously, some of the more challenging bedroom issues. Beyond that, I was sincerely encouraged by her wisdom, humor and grace. This book is an invaluable tool for wives in search of sexual wholeness and marital intimacy.
Also on Kindle 

Sheet Music – Dr. Kevin Leman
Sheet Music is subtitled “Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage.” This book is a frank discussion of the many things that can build a wonderful sex life.
Also on Kindle 

Surprised by the Healer: Embracing Hope for Your Broken Story – by Linda Dillow and Dr. Juli Slattery
Stories from women who have found healing from Jehovah Rapha, the God Who Heals. This book packs the power of story, providing encouragement and examples to follow. Includes a ten-week study.
Also on Kindle 

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1 comments
Eleutheros
Eleutheros

It could be said and I often have, that our sexuality was designed to teach us about our Father and Creator. Indeed, my sexuality was my starting point exactly because I believed, literally, what I was reading in Genesis and the rest of The Words, studying them after my divorce and drawing much different conclusions than I was taught. I was one of the lucky ones, then, because through this I was led to the truth, even as you put it so well, to discover that God's truth is not even on the same plane as the concepts of society and religious leaders. And the true proof of this was when I began to show my new wife these things I had learned and got to watch her gradually change from that confused woman you described, caught between the wanton and the wimp, for all the crap she learned both from The World and The Church, into a woman who is not fearful of displeasing God, on the one hand, because of her sexuality and on the other hand, does not fear loosing me if she isn't sexual enough, which actually frees her to be wanton, when she wants it and to ask for only comfort when she needs it. And so the truth is there, in The Words. And if others have discovered what I have, for truth is singualr in nature, not plural and wrote about it in other books and those books are the ones you recommend, then read them and let truth do what it does best, set you free to be the good human you were created to be! For it is not, nor has it ever been, a sin to be human. Thanx, Lori, for sharing today. I appreciate your thoughts and the truth they contain.

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