Have you ever written a sexual fantasy for your bride? Something about the two of you, doing something legal, non-sinful, and that she wouldn’t be opposed to doing.
I know this can seem a bit risky – what if she doesn’t like what you find exciting? What if your choice of words, or what you reveal about yourself isn’t to her liking? But there is also a great opportunity here; you can show her your sexual self in a way you have never been able to. To do this write a sexual story in which you share what you are thinking by adding your thoughts in italics. For example:
Jane removed her bra.
“Much better,” said Dan. “Any time I get to see your wonderful breasts it’s much better.” He crossed the room …
Believe it or not, this can be a powerful tool in helping your bride understand what you really think about her body, and about having sex with her. Sharing fantasies in this way is also a good way to try out something you think might be fun, but are unsure of. Or think she will be unsure of. Give it a test drive by written fantasy, and then the two of you can discuss how if felt and if you might want to give it a try for real.
Another idea is for one of you to come up with a short fantasy idea, and then each of you writes a fantasy along those lines. You will each learn about the other in this way.
Assume sharing these fantasies will leave the reader in need of sex, and share accordingly. Think of them as a type of foreplay.
A couple of suggestions for avoiding making her uncomfortable with what you write:
- Start with some non-sexual information. Lay out the scene, and the motivations. The more detail you give on the setting the better – smells, colours, sounds, textures, and so on.
- Be careful with your choice of words.
- Don’t use slang that will offend her.
- Avoid overly scientific terms that make it feel like a biology class.
- Skip silly euphemisms more likely to cause a laugh than arousal.
- Don’t use a fantasy as a way of getting her to do something she has been unwilling to do.
- Make small deviations from your norm. As you see what she likes, move a bit further.
- Changing up the time or location can be fun – such as
- You’re a pirate so taken by her beauty you have married her and are trying to become a respectable man.
- You’re together on a long space flight, the only two not in stasis for the next month.
- She’s a princess who has spared you, a slave, from death – and now has fallen in love with you and is going to give up her position so she can marry you.