All in the mind?

September 21, 2009

in Communication, Encouragement, Good Marriage

I read an interesting article (no longer free to non-subscribers) that said anything we believe can affect our bodies. This is the placebo effect, but much more powerful than we usually think of it, and it can do both good and harm. You can make someone sick, actually physically ill, by convincing them you’ve cursed them. There are even cases of people dying this way. You can also make someone feel better, even if they have a real physical illness, with a fake pill or a chant.

What does this have to do with your marriage? The things above are examples of how powerful our minds are, and how our thoughts can change us mentally, emotionally, and even physically. Add to that the fact that our words can put thoughts into other’s minds and it becomes clear to me that we can bless or curse our wife with our words. We can make her feel loved and special, or the exact opposite. We can make her feel able or unable, smart or stupid, and even well or sick.

Become aware of the power of your words, and the good or evil you can do. Listen to what you say, and watch how it impacts your wife. Also listen to what others say, and how their words may harm her. Be ready to both reject words that harm and repeatedly speak the opposite of those words.

3 comments
Eleutheros
Eleutheros

Paul put it this way, concerning the power of thought: I am entreating you, then, brethren, by the pities of God, to present your bodies a sacrifice, living, holy, well pleasing to God, your logical divine service. And not to be configured to this eon, but to be transformed by the renewing of your mind, for you to be testing what is the will of God, good and well pleasing and perfect. The Greek word for 'transform' here is the one where we get out word 'Metamorphisis' from. So it means to change from one form to another. Which means there are healthy ways of thinking, ways of thinking that benefit and ways of thinking that are unhealthy and lead to ruin. If I were to say to you, "I am speaking from my heart", all of you will know what I mean. But if I ask you to tell me what the heart is... most won't have a ready answer. The heart of a human being, then, is the sum total of the thoughts that are in you that lead you to speak as you speak and act as you act. Change the thoughts and you change the heart. So, what thoughts are in you, what do you believe to be truth about your spouse and even your God, that keeps you from being healthy, happy, winsome and good, exactly as you were created to be! "...in accord with the evangel of the glory of the happy God, with which I was entrusted." I Tim 1:11 CLV "...keep this precept unspotted, irreprehensible, unto the advent of our Lord, Christ Jesus, which, to its own eras, the happy and only Potentate will be showing: He is King of kings and Lord of lords..."I Tim 6:15 CLV

Africord
Africord

As a former African missionary, please do not take the activities mentioned in the article lightly. While I will agree to Paul's point about the power of the mind, spiritual warfare is alive and well. Jesus told us that whatever we bind on earth will be bound in heaven (Matt 16:9). I find that times of conflict sometimes bring out our strongest words, but again the scripture admonishes us to bless, even when facing opposition (Romans 12:14). How much more so than when caught in a disagreement with my spouse?

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