More time together?

October 6, 2009

in Quality Time, Sexuality

How much time can you spend with your bride before one of you needs a break from the other?

I know it sounds like an odd question, but for many couples it’s a reality.  Or maybe you have no idea if you would reach such a point because you have never spent enough time together to know?  It is increasingly common for couples to have very little time together – with each other and only each other. (Being in the same room both doing different things does not count as being together!)

You can’t be intimate or connected if you don’t spend time together.  You can’t know each other’s hearts or minds if you don’t spend time together.

On a similar line of thought, there are a lot of couples out there where both husband and wife say they want to have more sex.  If they both want more, why don’t they have more? A lack of time is certainly a common issue, but I think a lack of the emotional foundation needed is an even greater block for these couples.  They are having as much sex as their intimacy will support – to be able to have more sex they need to spend more time together non-sexually.

All of this is to get you to ask yourself if you and your bride spend enough time together, focused on each other.  If the answer is no, what are you going to do to fix that?  Are you willing to do what it takes to build intimacy with your bride?  Are you willing to give up things and change priorities to build a real marriage?

2 comments
prov5_18_19
prov5_18_19

I see your point. A lot of the time my wife and I spend "together", we are sitting on the couch watching TV. And when we do get together, it's like we don't know what to say to each other. I really wish we could find a hobby or interest that we both really enjoyed together, besides TV, eating, shopping and sex. Not that those are bad things, but I'd like something more.

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