Is too tired just an easy out?

October 10, 2009

in Sexuality

Dr. Trina Read, the author of this article, suggests that “too tired for sex” may just be an easy excuse.

I certainly think that we as a society are way too busy and way too tired, and I think both of those harm our relationships in general and our marriages in particular, but I must agree for the most part with Dr. Read. As I said recently, a lack of time means a lack of relationship, and I think that relationship lack does far more to limit sex than tiredness ever could.

Dr. Read points out that sex when tired can be good – and good for you.  I concur – we’ve had some great sex when we were both very tired. If you have the relationship part working, sex can be easy and enjoyable even when you are exhausted.

On a related note, I know that when we guys are tired, we are more tempted to masturbate for “quick, simple relief”.  We are also more susceptible to the lure of porn when we are tired. Relationship lack also makes these two things more likely. I suspect some guys like to hear “I’m too tired” from their bride on occasion, as they think it gives them an excuse for self-centered solo sex and/or some porn use.

All that said, if either of you is saying “too tired” with any regularity, it’s a problem. Be it that you really are too tired or it is a safe excuse, it’s hurting your relationship in many ways.

NOTE: Dr. Read is new to me, but after checking her site I see her to be both sex and marriage positive.

3 comments
mr.goose
mr.goose

"It’s especially ironic given that B.C., sex workers worked for the churches to help raise money. " And it is especially ironic that she neglects to mention the centuries of war, destruction, and exile that the Israelites went through because of lifestyles like that.

The Generous Husband
The Generous Husband

@tracyapotter - Thanks for the warning! I'd say her view of "sex workers" is rather skewed. I know folks who work in ministries (both large and small) that help sex workers get out, and what I hear from them is hardly the story told in that post!

tracyapotter
tracyapotter

While I understand the above article by Dr. Trina Read I would not recommend her. She is a prolific blogger on many various sites. Her own sites list links to Planned Parenthood (pro-abortion) and she personal sees nothing wrong with prostitution. See the July 5th, 2009 posting below. http://www.alittlemoreinteresting.com/blog/tread/blog.html

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