Just a warning – this is more of a rant than I usually do here.
Last Sunday (or Monday depending on your location) was “Coming out Day” – a day for homosexuals to “come out of the closet”. This is accompanied by all manner of ranting by various folks about how homosexual couples are destroying the sanctity of marriage.
My personal opinion is that the sanctity of marriage is being destroyed not by those who don’t believe in it, or those who want to redefine it, but by those who claim to be living it and defending it. What destroys marriage in the eyes of society is Christians – real or self proclaimed – who commit adultery, divorce for boredom, or accept an empty lifeless imitation of marriage. Those who do these things, and those who turn a blind eye to those who do these things, do far more harm to what God intended marriage to be than the unsaved could ever do.
So, for those who want to uphold the sanctity of marriage, I offer a couple of suggestions that I think will do far more good than any protest or law:
1. Live your marriage to the fullest, enjoying it and doing all you can to bless your bride to the fullest. And, do this openly and publicly. Come “out of the closet” and let the world know that you are madly in love with each other, and in appropriate ways, let the world know you are very happy sexually.
2. Don’t turn a blind eye to other followers of Jesus who are having marital problems, or living in sexual sin. The truth is we are our brother’s keeper, and if we don’t help, support, and when needed correct each other, we will all fail.
On the second point – one of the things that has deeply harmed both marriage and the ability of the church to connect with society is the many public divorces, adultery and other sins of well know Christian leaders. This parade of hypocrisy makes it easy for anyone to dismiss all Christians, and the effort by other Christians to defend these fallen folks just makes it worse. Most of the “big name Christian in big sin” stories could have been dealt with sooner and in a much more biblical way – it is rare for something like this to be unknown, there is almost always someone who knows and is either ignoring it, or worse, helping to keep it hidden as it goes on and on. The excuses for this vary, but the bottom line is usually pretty basic – those who refuse to properly deal with the sin are benefiting from the sinner in some way. In a world where everyone covers up for their own, and defends their own no matter how wrong they are, how would society look at Christians if we followed the Bible and dealt with our own? Might we be more respected if we followed what we preach, and refused to allow our own to get away with doing what they tell others is sin?