I recently had someone say his wife is an act of service person. That means she feels love when he does acts of service, but it also means she tends to show love by doing acts of service. Problem is she is so good at it, he has a hard time doing any act of service as she keeps beating him to them!
While I understand the problem he has, I suspect there is another problem – my guess is that acts of service is not his love language. So she is keeping him from making her feeling loved, and she is not making him feel loved. The point of love languages is that we each need to learn the way our spouse feels loved, and learn to do those things. It’s very natural that we all show love in the way we feel love, but odds are very good our spouses don’t feel loved by they things that make us feel loved – and visa-versa.
If you and your bride have not both read The Five Love Languages, I strongly urge you to do so.