Comments on: It’s all about choices http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2009/11/10/its-all-about-choices/ Daily tips on being a better husband. Tue, 09 Mar 2010 12:18:43 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Eleutheros http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2009/11/10/its-all-about-choices/comment-page-1/#comment-452 Eleutheros Tue, 10 Nov 2009 15:19:17 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=1793#comment-452 Yes and yes. Do <i>something</i> before resentment builds. For once your spouse crosses over into resentment of you <i>or even you of her</i>, the road you used to be on, where you could turn around easily enough, becomes a rugged mountian path. The reason this is so is because resentment makes it easy to justify the things that destroy trust- and once trust is gone the ability to be intimate vanishes. And without intimacy there soon becomes no <i>good</i> reason to be married; for all the other reasons, children, religious beliefs, monetary security, social situations, etc., only lead to misery. But, in equal proportion to the misery you can know in marriage, you can also know joy- if you understand that goodness means nothing unless you have someone to be good for and to receive good from. This is especailly true of God's goodness; for without us to be good for and to receive good from, His goodness, too, has no meaning. Think about it. Which is why I always say, "Be good! It's what you were created to be!" Yes and yes. Do something before resentment builds. For once your spouse crosses over into resentment of you or even you of her, the road you used to be on, where you could turn around easily enough, becomes a rugged mountian path. The reason this is so is because resentment makes it easy to justify the things that destroy trust- and once trust is gone the ability to be intimate vanishes.

And without intimacy there soon becomes no good reason to be married; for all the other reasons, children, religious beliefs, monetary security, social situations, etc., only lead to misery.

But, in equal proportion to the misery you can know in marriage, you can also know joy- if you understand that goodness means nothing unless you have someone to be good for and to receive good from. This is especailly true of God’s goodness; for without us to be good for and to receive good from, His goodness, too, has no meaning. Think about it.

Which is why I always say,

“Be good! It’s what you were created to be!”

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