Are you, and/or your bride, spending huge amounts of time on-line and/or gaming? I’m not talking about an hour or so a day, or an occasional multi-hour run. I’m talking about doing these things for several hours a day, every day. And I’m talking about doing that when your marriage and/or family really need more of you.
Your wife should not be a game system widow – and you should not be a message board widower. Even if you do these things together, it can limit time you need for other (more important) forms of contact.
Along similar lines, it is my opinion (shared by some folks who have the credentials to make such evaluations) that it is not healthy for virtually all of your “friends” to be on-line only friends. Much of what we need in the way of human contact requires actually being in the same room. On-line we don’t get pheromones, we don’t get the same kind of communication we get in real life, and we don’t get physical contact. Consider it a warning sign of trouble if you or your bride have far more on-line relationships than real life relationships, or spend far more time with “cyber-friends” than with real flesh and blood.