This article by Dr. Corey Allan sparked my thoughts below. I’ve only skimmed his blog, but what I’ve seen is very good and biblically sound.
So here is the question – do you work on your marriage, or does your marriage work on you? I have to say, looking back; my marriage has certainly worked on me a good deal. My marriage has brought out both the best and the worst in me. It has shown where I am not the man I want to be, or that I want others to think I am. The stress and trials of my marriage have shown me who I am, what I am made of, and where I am lacking.
And you know what? I’m glad for this! Not that I like the process, or being exposed as less than perfect – not at all! But my desire is to be better and better – more loving, more giving, more self-sacrificing, more understanding – in short, to become more and more like Jesus. This means anything that exposes me is gives me a chance to grow, a chance to become a better man. What a gift that all the things I have not liked about my marriage have been used by God to work on me.
Thank you Lord – and keep it coming.