Loaded words

February 1, 2010

in Communication

Are there words or phrases your bride uses that annoy or upset you?  If so, it is likely she is unaware these things bother you, or at least does not know how much they bother you.

It need not be something that is rude or nasty – it could be something innocent that just rubs you the wrong way because of how you hear it, or what it reminds you of. As an example, when I ask my bride if she knows where something is, she often used to say “If I had anything to do with it, it would be in the …” This phrase irked me, but I knew it was not meant in a bad way, so for years I said nothing.  When I finally said something, two things happened – my bride now says that far less often, and when she does, it does not bother me as much.

Minor irritations like this may seem insignificant, but they can add up.  Any little things you can defuse are things that won’t cause hurt later.  So let your bride know about words or phrases that she uses that bother you – and ask her to do the same with you.


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