A study on how words can cause and increase pain got me to thinking. First, a few quotes from Thomas Weiss, who was part of the study:
- “These findings show that words alone are capable of activating our pain matrix,”
- “…our results suggest as well that verbal stimuli have a more important meaning than we have thought so far…”
Okay, so if it works for painful physical stimuli, would it work for pleasurable physical stimuli? It would need to be studied to be sure, but given what is known about similarities in how the brain processes pain and sexual pleasure, it seems very possible that we can set the stage for better, more enjoyable sex by telling ourselves – and our spouses – that it’s going to be good.
Give it a shot; what do you have to lose?