I have this radical belief: having ovaries does not exclude one from having a “calling” on their life. In other words, the Lord has something for your bride to do. Call it service, ministry, blessing others, or whatever you like. Her calling might be church related, or it might not. I know a dear woman who works to increase adult literacy – she works via a secular group, but what she is doing is very much a ministry.
Sadly, many women just stare when asked what they are called to do. My bride asks this question of many woman, and few can immediately answer. Many are not even sure they have a calling.
If your bride knows what she is called to do, get behind her. Don’t do it for her, but pray, give her moral and verbal support, and offer to help her in any way you can. By the way, “any way you can” might include taking care of the kids or doing more around the home so she has the time and energy to purse what God has put on her heart.
If your wife does not know what she is called to do, start by letting her know you think she does have a calling. The pray. Pray with her, and pray for her. I would suggest you not tell her what you think God wants her to do – she needs to hear it herself. Your confirmation will be a blessing, your telling her will not be a blessing.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
How To Get To Know Your Step Kids: A great guest post on getting to know step kids at Simple Marriage.
Do You Have a Low Body Image? and 6 Tips to Improve Your Body Image: Life Gems has couple of great posts about an issue that is a deep wound for many woman.
Who Gets More of Your Attention—Your Children or Your Spouse?: Lori Lowe looks at a very important issue in this Life Gems post.
What Have You Done For Your Marriage Today?: In another winning post at Life Gems, Lori gives some ideas for blessing your spouse based on their love language.
You are the Problem, and the Solution: Great point in this post on The Marry Blogger.
Wives Try This: Initiate Sex with Your Husband – Repost: Stu’s “Beautiful Wife™” suggests to The Marry Blogger audience that wives should initiate sex.
Men and Women Are Different. Just Ask my Son.: A cute but spot on post at The Marry Blogger – find out what’s Stu’s son knows about the difference between boys and girls.
12 Ways to Ruin Sex: Over at Project Happily Ever After Lee Hefner and Nancy Wasson, Ph.D. share “Twelve Ways to Make Your Spouse Hate Sex”. A lot of guys will see themselves in this – read and make changes!
Poll: Do you cuddle after sex?: In a follow up to my post of Friday a week ago, Alisa asks her Project Happily Ever After readers about cuddling after sex.
How to Get Along with an Introverted Spouse: Project Happily Ever After also has a very good look at being an introvert from Alisa, who is an introvert. If your bride is an introvert, you need to read this. If yo are an introvert, your bride needs to read this.
Batteries Included: Sex Toy Use?: Intimacy in Marriage has an excellent look at a touchy subject – by a woman. I know this is going to get forward to a few wives.
Why we Settle: Your Marriage Restored talks about something I have harped on a few times – settling.