This is an obvious follow up on yesterday’s tip – Fear of her growing or changing.
As I said yesterday, we guys are less prone to change, but when we do change it is often sudden and extreme. A growing dissatisfaction with our life, our job, or coming face to face with our mortality can cause us to make very big changes with seemingly little thought. As men, we tend to have a “my wife will follow me anywhere” thing going – even guys who think they are past that often seem to act as if it’s so.
Just realise that your bride needs time to think and process when you want to make a change. Charging ahead while she is trying to do the thinking and processing is almost always a bad plan. Leaving her with the choices of tagging along and walking away does not make her feel respected or important, and even if she does go along, you can’t know how much she does or does not want to go along.
Ultimately, the way to avoid problems is to communicate. If she is aware of your frustrations, and of those growing, she won’t be blindsided by your desire to do something to change things. If she hears your various hopes and dreams over the long haul, she will have a better idea of who you are and where you might be headed. She can also have input on the various directions you might take, which will help you to know if something is likely to be a problem with her.