Consider King David, before he was king. He killed a lion and a bear single handed, and defeated the giant Goliath with a sling (1 Samuel 17). Surely, this man was afraid of nothing! Why then do we later see him repeatedly fleeing from King Saul, lying to protect himself (1 Sam 20), and then acting crazy out of fear of King Achish (1 Sam 21)?
My guess is that David had a warrior’s heart, and had no problem dealing with things as a warrior would. However, when he could not act as a warrior (fight/kill), he was at a loss. David refused to rise up against Saul, and that left him unable to do what came naturally. Maybe fighting his first instinct left him unable to think clearly?
I think most men are this way – we are very competent at dealing with things in a ways we are comfortable with, but we tend to have great difficulty when we can’t act on our first, natural impulse. When we are can’t do what comes naturally, we are likely to procrastinate, side step, become angry, or do something crazy.
If you see yourself in this, spend some time thinking and praying about it. How can you behave differently? How can you communicate your frustration and difficulty to your bride, who probably wonders why you are acting as you are?