Thoughtful Words

May 31, 2010

in Communication, Encouragement


I am stealing the tip below from my bride, because it’s very good and something most men need to hear.


I actually use fewer words than most gals and I’m a “bottom-liner.”   That is not always a good thing.  While my husband can appreciate to-the-point words, that kind of talk can feel abrupt or harsh.  I’ve found that a soft introduction is a good thing.  If I can get my husband’s attention and then gently explain my thoughts, he is more likely to understand and not get hurt or feel disrespected.

My encouragement is to take the time to consider your words so that they are thoughtful and well framed, rather than abrupt and short.  “Hon, my hands are full. Would you hold the door for me?” is a lot kinder than, “Hey! Hold the door!”

There is always a way to be honest without being brutal. Arthur Dobrin

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Tip well taken.

David Patrick
David Patrick

I personally am a "bottom liner" and tend to come off as abrupt to most people. This is a lesson that I have had to learn. I call them "buffers" to ease into what I have to say. It saves a world of trouble. .-= David Patrick´s last blog ..Tips to Last 47 Years =-.

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