Do you have the right to be heard?

June 29, 2010

in Communication, YOU4HER

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I stole the post title from this excellent post by Seth. Because Seth’s list was for business, much of it does not apply to marriage, so I thought I’d do my own list for marriage. The basic thrust is still the same “Sure, you have the right to speak, but what does it take to be listened to?”

Many would argue, and I would agree to a point, that a husband has a biblical position that gives him a right to be heard. I do not, however, think that is without any limit, and the reality is if we don’t earn the right to be heard, we don’t really get the respect and hearing that we may think we deserve. In short, even if your bride grants you the right to be heard based on your position, in the long run it’s not going to work out that way if you fail to also earn the right to be heard.

So, here’s my short list of ways to earn the right to be heard:

  • Hear her
  • Make sure she knows you hear her
  • Have a track record of being worth listening to
  • When you blow it, confess it with no blame shifting
  • Show an ongoing, growing, adaptive awareness of her needs
  • Keep proving, by your actions and words, that you are on her side


I was just think of the story of Nabal and Abigail in I Samuel--Nabal kind of blew it when he didn't HEAR his wife, didn't he?

Eric - BHF
Eric - BHF

Thanks for pointing out that you have to earn the respect that pointed out in the bible - sadly, I think many take this for granted. Great list and things I definitely need to work on! .-= Eric - BHF´s last blog ..How to be a Better Husband and Father- Patience =-.

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