Comments on: Arguments – Fight nice http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/26/arguements-fight-nice/ Daily tips on being a better husband. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:15:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Ronald http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/26/arguements-fight-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-1192 Ronald Mon, 02 Aug 2010 04:22:54 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=3528#comment-1192 James 4:1-3 (NASB) James 4 Things to Avoid [4:1] What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? [2] You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask. [3] You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures. James 4 James 4:1-3 (NASB)
James 4
Things to Avoid
[4:1] What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? [2] You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask. [3] You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures. James 4

]]> By: sasha@stakethisclaim http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/26/arguements-fight-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-1176 sasha@stakethisclaim Tue, 27 Jul 2010 03:08:04 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=3528#comment-1176 I am so glad I came across this article! My Beloved and I figured this out during one of the first major arguments we ever had, that if we have a fight it has to be in a situation where, not only are we exposed and vulnerable but we are also reminded of how much the other person loves us. It's hard to yell at someone when you've got your arms wrapped around them and can feel their heartbeat against your chest, you know? You spend a lot more time trying to figure out how to come to a resolution or an agreement than you do trying to outshout them and get what you want this way. I am so glad I came across this article! My Beloved and I figured this out during one of the first major arguments we ever had, that if we have a fight it has to be in a situation where, not only are we exposed and vulnerable but we are also reminded of how much the other person loves us. It’s hard to yell at someone when you’ve got your arms wrapped around them and can feel their heartbeat against your chest, you know? You spend a lot more time trying to figure out how to come to a resolution or an agreement than you do trying to outshout them and get what you want this way.

]]> By: Jason http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/26/arguements-fight-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-1174 Jason Mon, 26 Jul 2010 17:39:40 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=3528#comment-1174 I'm glad you mentioned to avoid "never" & "always." That was advice from our pre-marital counseling. The first thing the other person wants to do after one of those type of statements is prove their spouse wrong by giving an example to the contrary. I’m glad you mentioned to avoid “never” & “always.” That was advice from our pre-marital counseling. The first thing the other person wants to do after one of those type of statements is prove their spouse wrong by giving an example to the contrary.

]]> By: Temple http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/26/arguements-fight-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-1173 Temple Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:10:31 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=3528#comment-1173 "I’m thinking that would put the fellow at a disadvantage, no?" No! Not in my marriage, LOL. I can't think straight if he's naked! “I’m thinking that would put the fellow at a disadvantage, no?”

No! Not in my marriage, LOL. I can’t think straight if he’s naked!

]]> By: Ronald http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/26/arguements-fight-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-1172 Ronald Mon, 26 Jul 2010 10:59:49 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=3528#comment-1172 I see stuff about "fighting" with your wife all the time. The bible says that we are to love our wives like Christ loved the church - Sacroficing himself for her. We were nit told to follow Jesus example of turning the temple, but we should live a life of sacrifice to our wife. So what do we fight about? Do the wives want to bring the children up as pagans? Most fights are over not getting what you want, and you are supposed to live sacrificially with your wife, so why would a husband ever fight with his wife anyway? If he knows the thing she wants is not what he wants, it's an opportunity to live sacroficaly, not a time to fight. I see stuff about “fighting” with your wife all the time. The bible says that we are to love our wives like Christ loved the church – Sacroficing himself for her. We were nit told to follow Jesus example of turning the temple, but we should live a life of sacrifice to our wife. So what do we fight about? Do the wives want to bring the children up as pagans? Most fights are over not getting what you want, and you are supposed to live sacrificially with your wife, so why would a husband ever fight with his wife anyway? If he knows the thing she wants is not what he wants, it’s an opportunity to live sacroficaly, not a time to fight.

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