Comments on: Arguments – is it about you or the issue? http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/28/arguments-is-it-about-you-or-the-issue/ Daily tips on being a better husband. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:15:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: The Generous Husband http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/28/arguments-is-it-about-you-or-the-issue/comment-page-1/#comment-1181 The Generous Husband Wed, 28 Jul 2010 18:23:57 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=3527#comment-1181 @Eric - You are certainly right on the first comment - and each feels that backing down is a sign of weakness that will cost them. Even when we know we are being a bit unreasonable, we feel we can't back down. I suppose there are exceptions, but if either person was willing to stop being selfish I would think arguments would become rather uncommon. Your second comment is also important - the couple that learns to avoid those things, and keep the argument about the argument, do much better. @Eric – You are certainly right on the first comment – and each feels that backing down is a sign of weakness that will cost them. Even when we know we are being a bit unreasonable, we feel we can’t back down. I suppose there are exceptions, but if either person was willing to stop being selfish I would think arguments would become rather uncommon.

Your second comment is also important – the couple that learns to avoid those things, and keep the argument about the argument, do much better.

]]> By: Eric - BHF http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/07/28/arguments-is-it-about-you-or-the-issue/comment-page-1/#comment-1180 Eric - BHF Wed, 28 Jul 2010 14:17:52 +0000 http://www.the-generous-husband.com/?p=3527#comment-1180 It's been my experience that during a fight, often both parties are being selfish. Also, I've found its only about the original issue for about 5 minutes, after that its defending oneself, or someone has said hurtful things, etc. .-= Eric - BHF´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/BetterHusbandsAndFathers/~3/QC14TK5fTWM/wordless-wednesday-nicu-flashback.html">Wordless Wednesday- NICU Flashback</a> =-. It’s been my experience that during a fight, often both parties are being selfish. Also, I’ve found its only about the original issue for about 5 minutes, after that its defending oneself, or someone has said hurtful things, etc.
.-= Eric – BHF´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday- NICU Flashback =-.

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