“Forbearance is simply God’s way of not judging sin immediately. And His long-suffering is to tolerate sin to lead us into repentance.”
I love that, it is such a clear and beautiful expression of why He “puts up with us” and how it works. Maybe the same thing could work in marriage? Maybe, since we men are told to love our bride’s as Christ loves the church, we are supposed to be doing it that way.
What would it look like if you did not immediately judge her mistakes and the wrongs she commits against you? What might forbearance and long-suffering bring about in her life, and her actions towards you?
Just a radical and dangerous idea.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Better Husbands and Fathers
Be a Better Husband and Father by Respecting Women and Children – Dead.on.right
Date Your Wife: Massages! – I’m all about massage, so this post rubs me the right way!
Do You Hide Spending From Your Wife? – Shocking stats! Anything you hide is a problem.
Happily Ever After
What to do about a passive aggressive spouse: And how to break the cycle if you are that spouse – Alisa says what I recently said, in that such behaviour rarely gets anyone what they want. She goes on to suggest some ways to break the behaviour in yourself or your spouse.
Happily Married After
Dishonor Says, “That Doesn’t Matter’ – Another brilliant post from David. Wish I could say so much in so few words!
Gasoline vs Water – Fuel the fire, or try to put it out.
Why You Are Having Stupid Fights – As opposed to the intelligent fights?
24 Hours – Okay, now David is just meddling. But he is right …
Where is the Treasure of Your Heart? – Lori asks “What are you seeking out of marriage and life? Do you find it difficult to discern and/or fulfill your purpose? Do you have a goal/vision for your life, or do you find yourself like so many, spinning your wheels and feeling unfulfilled?”
Challenges for Spousal Caregivers – As my bride and I cared for my dying mother for nine months, I have some concept of caregiving – but not for a spouse.
The Marry Blogger
Slow Down, You’re Moving Too Fast – Great little guest post.
Peace & Projects
How to Shrug Off the Burden of Doing it All – A must read for any man who is, or is married to, a perfectionist or workaholic.
5 Ways to Survive a Family or Class Reunion – Good guest post