Does that title mean anything to you? Someone will no doubt post it in the comments, or you could Google it, but unless you are serious Trekkie, it means nothing to you, and I’m wasting my time saying it.
Thing is, most of us do this to our brides, and many of us have been doing it for years. We say or do things designed to communicate our love, but unless she speaks the same love language, she has no clue what we are saying. If she is not an acts of service gal, you will never convince her you love her by doing things for her. If she is not a gifts person, gifts will never make her feel loved I could be showing my love a dozen times a day, while she is wondering why I never show her any love.
Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages [affiliate link] covers this topic very, very well – discussing the five primary ways we feel love, how to figure out your bride’s love language(s) and how to speak love in a way she can hear.
As a starting place, try an on-line Love Languages Test , Take the test yourself, and have your bride do it.. Learn how she feels love, then figure out how to do that – no matter how difficult and unnatural it may seem at first.
By the way, you can use the category tags on my posts to find tips that address each love language: