Out of the box marriage

September 5, 2010

in Good Marriage, Links to good stuff, Series

I’m going to do a short series of tips on “Out of the box marriage”, inspired by this post from Seth:

“The decision before the decision is the box.

When you think outside the box, what you’re actually doing is questioning the decision before the decision.

That decision is far more important and much more difficult to change than the decision you actually believe you’re about to make.”

Two things struck me as I read that. Firstly, when you challenge the box, you challenge those who support the decisions that make up the box. If your marriage gets too good, you will offend people. No really – I was once told I was “too close” to my wife. (I will plead a happy guilty to that charge!)

Secondly, if we accept the box, we have very limited room for change. If you want something close to what is the norm, then box is fine; but if you want a marriage that is better than the norm, the box is part of the problem.

With that in mind, I will touch on each of the five love languages, and on sexuality, and what an out of the box marriage in that area might look like.


Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Due to demands of the day job conference, I did not get any links done this week.

3 comments
Tom and Debi Walter
Tom and Debi Walter

We can certainly understand! Have a great holiday, hopefully resting! .-= Tom and Debi Walter´s last blog ..So Did You Lighten Up =-.

Tom and Debi Walter - The Romantic Vineyard
Tom and Debi Walter - The Romantic Vineyard

Thought you would like to know the links don't seem to be working! .-= Tom and Debi Walter - The Romantic Vineyard´s last blog ..So Did You Lighten Up =-.

The Generous Husband
The Generous Husband

@Tom and Debi Walter - My bad - I programmed this post a week ago and had hoped to get some links in. The conference we were doing ate all my time, and I forgot to pull the raw link code. Removed now - thanks!

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