Because of your wounds, you expect of your spouse things you should not. Because of your spouse’s wounds, s/he is unable or unwilling to do things you should expect.
By wounds I mean the things that have happened to us emotionally, mentally or relationally that leave us wounded, crippled or afraid. What are your wounds? What are her wounds? Do you see how unhealed wounds are making a mess of your marriage?
I’ll camp here a couple of days, as I think this is an important issue.