A couple of months ago, Donald Miller had a post entitled “I’d Rather be Hated than Loved with Conditions“, which sparked a somewhat similar thought in my mind.
Have you allowed your bride to know who you really are, so that she can love you for who you are? Or, have you hidden parts of yourself out of fear that she won’t love those parts? If you are doing this, doesn’t if feel horrible? Don’t you think she will eventually discover the hidden parts, and won’t she be rightly upset at you for hiding them? Seems to me the benefits of being yourself outweigh the risks.
On the other side, have you shown your wife that you love her for who she is, even if there are bits she had not shown you? Don’t give her any reason to fear being herself.