If you want to drive a nail, and do it well, you need a hammer of the right size. You also need the space for a good swing, and enough light to see what you are trying to hit. In short, doing it right takes a bit more than beating on the nail with anything you can lay your hands on – and the more delicate the job, the more true this is.
Are you using the right tools with your bride? Or, do you beat on problems with anything you can find, hoping to make them go away? When you talk to her, do you do it with the right attention, the right volume, and a willingness to listen as well as talk? Do you take her needs as a project to be done as fast as possible, or do you take the time to turn out fine craftsmanship?
Of course, I can’t let this go without quoting “When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail”. If you don’t have a full set of basic relationship tools, you can’t do the job right. If you want to go beyond the basics, you will need even more tools. It will take time and effort to build your marriage toolbox, but in the long run it will be well worth the effort.