I want to echo something that Lori Byerly (my bride), Lori Lowe (who I also respect a great deal) and several others are blogging this time of year. In short, the holidays should serve us, we should not serve the holidays. Likewise, our extended family should build us up and bless us, not tear us down and hurt us. To that end, I propose this is a situation where less really is more. Less travel, less going, less doing. Pick carefully, and fully invest in what you choose so that you can really enjoy what you choose to do.
Also important – after each holiday event, ask each other if it was worth it. Did it lift you up, or give you an opportunity to lift others up? If not, think about ditching it next time around.