Today in church our pastor taught on
1 Eph 4, and specifically on what we the members of the body should be doing. The pastor and other leaders equip (teach, train) the saints, and the saints then do the work of the ministry. In the midst of this, the pastor said “Most Christians are educated beyond their obedience” – meaning most of us have been equipped to do things we are not doing. Such people don’t need more teaching, they need to be obedient to what they have already been taught.
I wonder how many husbands are guilty of the same thing in their marriage? They know what to do to make their marriage better, but they don’t do it. They know things that would bless their brides, but they don’t do them, or don’t do them consistently. They know things they do that really bug their bride, but they keep doing those things.
Is this you? Maybe you feel you are doing more than your fair share and are waiting for her to do her part. How is that working for you? Maybe you just don’t want to put in the effort it would take. Are you saying your marriage is just not worth it?
If you know what to do and choose not to do it, then you are hurting your marriage. If you are holding back, then you are limiting your marriage. If you are not doing what you should, don’t whine to friends or ask God for help – start by doing what you know.