A friend of mine, a medical doctor no less, is fond of saying we have two ears and one mouth, and should use the proportionally. Granted, you and your bride can’t both listen to each-other more than you talk, but you can probably both listen more – and listen better. This is especially true for those of us with an abundance of testosterone, as one of the major gripes from wives is that their husband does not listen to them.
What does it mean to listen? Better yet, what does it mean to really hear? It’s possible to repeat her words back perfectly and still not have heard what she means – not heard her heart. For women being heard, being understood, is vital. Being heard is more important to her than you have an answer for any problem she has. Being heard is at least as important as having you agree with her.
Work to hear the ideas, concerns, hopes, disappointments, and joys behind her words. Learn to focus on her words, rather than how you are going to reply. Knowing you have heard what she says will deeply bless her, and make her feel loved.