Today my bride and I celebrate 26 years of marriage. There were some very difficult and painful years in there, but now it gets better and better every year. The last five years have been incredible, and we expect it to keep getting better and better.
A couple of days ago I came across an article entitled Does Marriage Improve With Age? There are significant reasons why marriage improves with age. The article is dead on; describing what has become a reality for my bride and me.
Maybe you are thinking, “That’s nice for you, but it will never happen in my marriage”. It seems many folks think great marriages are something that “just happens” to a very few “lucky” couples. I’m here to tell you that’s bunk – great marriages are the result of hard work on the part of both husband and wife.
In the article in the link above, and an article linked from there, the authors say that those who are deeply in love would rather spend time with each other than alone, with each other than anyone else, and with each other than with each other plus anyone else. That kind of desire to be together only happens when a couple make time together a priority. At first it takes effort, and at first it is often not what either of you most wants. However, if you keep at it, things can change.
I very much would like to see every couple have a marriage as satisfying and enjoyable as the marriage my bride and I share. I am convinced that any couple can do it, and that any couple can start making a better marriage TODAY – no matter how bad it might be now. Unfortunately, all I can do is tell you – you and your bride have to do the work.
One last thing – it’s worth it. No matter how hard it is, if you both work at it, you will be glad you did.
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