I’ve seen a lot of tweets and articles on a story entitled The seven-year itch is now the three-year glitch, so I chased down the original (see link). Let me start with a couple of things that make this “study” of limited use. First, the study was commissioned by Warner Brothers to promote the UK release of “Hall Pass” a comedy film. I could find no information on who did this “study” or what (if any) demographics were done. Second, those polled were either married or in a relationship – with no breakdown of how many were in each category. The “story” is in how those in a relationship for less than three years answered the poll as compared to those in a relationship for more than three years.
Clearly I am not impressed with this story. What really gets me is I expect to see it become folk wisdom that will be confused as something backed by good studies. However, setting all that aside…
The nuts and bolts of the story are the ten things that longer term couples say go from “small irritations which are seemingly harmless and often endearing” to “major irritations around 36 months.” Frankly, I don’t see how some of the things on their list would ever be “endearing”. I also suspect some of these are not moving from little to major as much as going from non-existent or uncommon to frequent. In other words, folks start to take each other for granted and stop being as loving and caring as they were early in their marriage (or relationship).
My suggestion is to talk with your bride about this. Ask her if there are things that have become annoying, or if any annoying behaviour have emerged or become more common.
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