I got an e-mail from a lady in response to my “Do you ever want to hurt her” post.
When your e-mail came in I misread the subject line, thinking it said: “Do you want to BE her?” And, I actually laughed out loud!
Only because I know the answer is NO WAY, my husband would never want to be me (or have my job/responsibilities) …
So my question is this, would you want to be her? Would you want to have to do everything she has to do? Of course, you can’t answer that if you don’t know all she does, and very few of us know half of what our bride does. (Did you know the majority of women do more housework when they get married? A couple of years ago a University of Michigan study found that it was an average of an extra seven hours a week!) Got kids? Then there is very high likelihood that she is doing more of the day-in-day-out work of child raising – even if you both work the same number of hours outside the home. And please, don’t think keeping them for half a Saturday gives you a clear idea of what it takes, and what it costs.
So be honest, do you think you have the better “job” in your marriage? Would you really like to trade with her? Do you think you could do all she does as well as she does?
If you realise she has the short end of the stick, what can you do to even things out?
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