Today I turn 50. (It’s not nearly as old as it seemed a half a life ago.)
Regrets? I’ve had a few – mostly when I have tried to do it my way! (Sorry Frank, God’s way rocks!)
One thing I see that has served me well is not being afraid to take risks – after a good bit of prayer! Statistically, marrying my bride was a bad plan, but it has turned out to be the second best choice of my life. Five years ago this month we decided to pack up all we owned and move 2000 miles. There were plenty of risks, and the first place we landed did not work out. The second place we landed did not work out either – but today we are some-place we really enjoy, we are part of an awesome church, and we have a growing number of great friends.
I find that fear is often (not always, but often) nothing more than an obstacle on a road to something good. Wisdom, prayer, and the input of trusted friends will show us when fear is a proper warning, and when it is a road block to be overcome.
What are you afraid of? What would you like to do that you don’t do because of fear? If you let that fear keep you from trying, will you regret that choice some day?
I can honestly say that if I were told I was going to die today, I would not feel cheated. It’s not that I am done, that I have nothing to live for or nothing more I want do – I have a lot to live for, and so much I want to do. However, I have lived life rather fully, and enjoyed so much. I have loved and been loved, blessed others and been blessed by others. In short, it has been good to be me, and I see no reason to think that will change. If you don’t feel the same way – why? What is undone in your life? What do you need to do? What relationships need to be healed? What needs to be repaired with your bride or your children? Figure it out, then get to it.
One other thing that has served me well is an ever growing understanding that giving is better than receiving and serving is better than leading. When I was younger much of this was focused on my family – but as my kids have become adults and my marriage has become stronger, my bride and I have focused more and more of this on others. Find ways to give, love, and serve many, and do these things especially for those who have no way to repay you; it is very unlikely you will regret it.
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