When your bride says no to something new you want to try sexually, how do you react?
I understand how it feels, and even hurts, to be told no, but how you react to her saying no will increase or decrease how often you hear no in the future.
Some (dare I say most?) wives feel there is a constant battle for what happens in their sex life. They feel they are always being pushed for more sex, more variety, new acts, new positions, and so on. No one likes being pushed, and the automatic response is to push back. Trust me, you won’t win this battle in the long run – keep pushing for more, and you will have less and less.
What if you didn’t push? What it you asked for new things nicely, not too often, and then were understanding and loving if she said no? If you stopped pushing for more, do you think she would (in time) stop pushing for less? In time, might she say yes to a few things to which she had previously said no?
Then the next step – do not think her saying yes to something once means she can never say no again. Think about the horrible position you put her in with that thinking! Imagine if she regularly suggested cooking something new, and you knew that if you said yes to something once she would fix it regularly, even if you did not like it after you tried it. I know that many women don’t try new sex acts for this very reason – they fear trying it once means they will be expected to do it over and over. Women even say no to things they would like to try for this reason; it’s just not worth the risk.
Bottom line: When saying no is easy and respected, she feels freer to say yes.
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