A couple weeks ago, my Would you want to be her? post resulted in a number of fairly predictable comments and e-mails. The one that really got me was from a man who lost his first wife when his son was a year and a half old. He hired help for while he was a work, but the rest of the time, including all night, every night, he was the full-time, on-call parent who had to do all the shopping, cooking, cleaning, and so on and so on. This fellow learned what it is to be a mother, and now that he’s remarried, I suspect he is a very loving and supportive husband to his new bride.
A couple of the comments dealt with the fact that men and women are different, and deal with things differently. I fully agree with this, and I am convinced, by both the Bible and biology, that women are able to deal with some parenting tasks better than men are. HOWEVER, I am also aware that some men use this as an excuse to leave their bride in a horrible situation. PLEASE do not use “God equipped her for this” as an excuse to ignore what her job costs her, or as rational for not doing all you can to help her out.
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