Seth’s blog post How to fail got me thinking about how we blow it with our brides, and how our reactions to that failure make all the difference.
We all blow it – it’s part of being human. Blowing it as a husband does not make you a bad husband. How you deal with blowing it makes you a look good or look bad.
- Don’t make excuses, don’t try to put some of the blame on her. Say you blew it, say you’re sorry, and do better.
- Try again – even if you are not sure your next try will work. Fear of failure paralyses. As I said recently, doing something is almost always better than doing nothing.
- Be gracious to her when she blows it. Give her what you would like to receive from her.
- Try to understand what your blowing it has cost her. If you can say something indicating you understand the cost to her, that will make her feel better.
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