Bottom line upfront: No matter what you marriage is like now, it can be much better. Whether it’s currently good or bad, it can be better. If you both think it’s over, it can be better. If one of you has moved out, or a divorce has been filed, it can be much better. Even if divorce has occurred, as long as you are both single, you can have a great marriage. I can say this with confidence because I know couples from each of those categories who now has a fantastic marriage.
What does it take to have a much better marriage? Long term it requires that both husband and wife be dedicated to making a better marriage; but short term it only requires one person make that commitment. The majority of the time (not 100%, but the vast majority), if one spouse really starts to do what’s right, the other will start to make changes as well. It’s human nature to reciprocate love, kindness, and change – especially when the changes benefit the who did not make them.
The real issue here is this: how far is each of you willing to go to have a better marriage? How much are you willing to change? What are you willing to give up for a better marriage? How much time and effort are you each going to devote to getting a better marriage?
Is it worth it? I’ve never known anyone who gained a great marriage say it cost too much. Those who achieve it are unanimous – it’s worth everything it costs and then some.