Some spouses act like children – always trying to do the minimum necessary to get by. They figure out the minimum amount of love, respect, appreciation, housework, sex, or whatever their spouse will tolerate, and do no more than that. They figure out how late they can be, how often they can fail to follow up on a promise, or how rude they can be, so that they can get away with as much as possible.
Not to be judgemental, but that doesn’t sound like love to me! (Okay, I admit it, I am judging – what kind of way is this to treat someone you love?!)
If you love your bride, then set the bar higher; set it a LOT higher. Aside from the fact it’s the right thing to do, it’s the wise thing to do. The more you give to her, the better she will feel. The better she feels, the more she will give.