Earlier this year I suggested that you and your bride give each other three things to change or improve during the next year. The three were to include one that was small/easy, one of medium difficulty, and one that would take some real effort. I suggested that these goals be SMART:
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Attainable
R – Relevant
T – Targeted Time
If you set goals with your bride, this is your half-year mark, and it’s time to check yourself. Have you accomplished the goal you choose to work on first? If you have, well done – now pick another from the two remaining. If you are not on track to make your targeted time, what do you need to do to get it done?
What about your bride? Do you see any movement, any hint of improvement, on any of the three things you suggested to her? If so, compliment and thank her! If you see no change, and you think she was honestly interested in trying, a six-month check in for both of you is a good way of reminding each other what was said, and a good way to renew your efforts. Start by asking her if she has seen improvement in the things she suggested to you, and follow up by discussing her.
If you didn’t do this at the first of the year, why not do it now? Each of you makes a list of three things, and submits it to the other. You are each free to veto anything that seems unfair or too difficult, or you can suggest a modified goal. Keep working until you each have three goals.
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