This is the start of a series on control. I am increasingly aware that much of what wounds and kills marriages boils down to control issues. Wanting to be in control of ourselves, and our lives, is a very natural thing. Wanting to be in control of those around us may seem a valid way to ensure the self-control we crave. However, control is not usually as possible as we want, and trying to gain control can do great harm to our relationships.
For today, I will simply ask you to think about the control issues in your life and your marriage, and offer one scripture that addresses how we should deal with situations where we do have/should have control.
But Jesus called them to him and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” [Matthew 20:25-28 ESV]
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Note: Due to a day of fun with my bride and friends on Saturday, these links were done a day early. A lot of folks who blog on the side (as in have a real job!) post on Friday and Saturday, so those are missing. I’ll get them next week.
A Grown Up Marriage
Naked and Unashamed: In the excellent post the author builds on things I have said in several places to discuss the importance of sex. Great stuff!
Black and Married with Kids
Are You Living Your Life For What Really Matters?: Great post. How does your marriage commitment score on the four indicators given here?
Do Husbands Really Need Silence When They Come Home: For some men this is a make or break issue. If it is for you, maybe this will help your bride understand.
Cheers To Vacations Without The Children: Permission to vacation without your children.
Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage
The Church’s Answer to Immorality – Part One: “Most churches don’t teach it, preach it or talk about it because they are afraid to offend someone with the word s-e-x and The Church is a mess today because of it. “ « AMEN to that!
4 Tips to Making Great Family Memories: Good memories often require intentionality.
Deposits, Not Withdrawals: A good discussion of several of the areas in marriage where we make withdrawals or deposits.
I Needed to Hear That: A few well timed words can mean so much. Here are a few suggestions of such words.
Creating a Legacy of Love. Or, Why Loving Your Spouse Is Good for Everyone: Read about a man who knows what blesses his bride, and how he is making it happen. (Then go and do likewise!)
The Romantic Vineyard
A Fragrant Aroma – Spontaneous Wins: Once again we see that Tom is a wise man who knows his bride so very well. Do you know your bride well enough to do something like this?
4 ways to find more time for marriage with kids in the way: Do it for yourself, for your bride, and for the kids.