I suspect many people seek control because they think it will make them safe. I suppose the more we control, the safer we are, but given the number of things we can’t control, are we making it better, or just driving everyone crazy?
Another facet of this is the desire to ensure that one’s bride is safe. I fully get that – I feel the fear when my bride is out without me and is overdue returning home. Life without her is something I can’t wrap my head around, and it would be easy to let my fear of losing her cause me to try to control/limit what she does. If she never leaves my sight, she is safer, is she not? Maybe she would be safer; but she would also be unable to enjoy life, to grow, and to do the things God has called her to do. My attempt to “protect” her by controlling her would destroy who she is; and that would be losing her!