One thing we need to understand about control is that it is often more of an illusion than a reality. Maybe that illusion makes us feel better, or safer, or like a better person, but if the illusion is ripped away, how do we then feel? Even worse, what if chasing the illusion of control causes harm, or causes us to ignore things we should be doing? Are we willing to hurt ourselves and others to purse something that may not exist?
Tomorrow I will be attending a memorial service for a father and his pre-teen son. They leave behind a wife/mother, a daughter/sister, and parents/grandparents. They had no idea they would die a week ago, and in the end, they had no control over their deaths.
I don’t mean to be morbid, and I’m not trying to scare anyone, but let’s be honest about what we can control, what we can’t control, and what we might but should not control. Let’s be less about control and more about doing what we should do. Let’s be more focused on loving, giving, and making life better for those around us: starting with our bride and children. You have very little control over when you will leave this earth, but you have a great deal of control over the legacy and memories that you leave.
Do well, live well, bless often, and give generously; let God worry about the rest.